You don't have to feel or be any specific way when you meditate and in general you're not looking for anything specific to happen or trying to make something happen. Instead, think about being present with your experience exactly as it is, whatever it is. The fact that no emotions are showing up while you’re meditating doesn’t automatically mean that they’re blocked. If there’s a state of relative lack of emotion while you're meditating, that’s not a problem. You might even try occasionally naming the experience as calm, ease, stillness, or whatever labels feel appropriate.
It’s also true that finding a balanced relationship to emotions is one of the skills of practice. At different times we might err too much on the side of indulging the emotions, while at other times, there might be some kind of suppression or denial.
As you develop more calmness and stability through formal meditation practice, it gets easier to stay with your emotions in daily life without getting lost in them. It doesn’t really matter where or when we feel the emotions, while meditating, or in daily life, it’s more important to practice bringing mindfulness to them whenever they show up.
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