#344 How to Handle Anger, Uncertainty, and Self-Loathing | Mushim Patricia Ikeda
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When somebody wrongs you, what is the wise way to handle your anger? Is forgiveness possible? What about actually friendliness? My guest today has a lot of thoughts about how to handle anger and how to respond to people who mean you harm. It might surprise you to hear from a Buddhist teacher who actually isn’t utterly disparaging of anger. In fact, she is proud (somewhat facetiously) of having been called “the original Angry Asian Buddhist.” Her name is Mushim Ikeda, and she is my kind of Buddhist. She self-describes as “snarky,” and, as you will hear, she loves to laugh. She has doable, down-to-earth strategies, and she makes a compelling, if counterintuitive, case for the pragmatism of sending goodwill to people who want to harm you.
Mushim is a core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center. She is a writer, activist, and diversity consultant. She has trained for decades as both a lay and monastic Buddhist. Aside from anger, we also discuss how to handle uncertainty, and what Mushim calls a “pandemic of self-loathing” in our culture. But we begin with some candid talk about the trauma of being an Asian-American during a time of rising violence against the AAPI community.
This is the second in a two-part series on the uptick in anti-Asian violence -- a trend that should be particularly worrisome for this audience, given the Asian roots of meditation and many of the other happiness-producing modalities we talk about on this show. If you missed it, go check out Monday’s episode, where we explore the history of anti-Buddhist and anti-Asian violence in America (which started decades before the pandemic), and the hurt felt by many Asian-American Buddhists about how they can be overlooked by American Buddhists, including, sometimes, me.
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Where to find Mushim Patricia Ikeda online:
Other Resources Mentioned:
- Asian Woman Set on Fire
- Covid 'Hate Crimes' Against Asian Americans on Rise
- The Brahma Viharas
- 21 Lessons for the 21st Century by Yuval Noah Harari
- Metta (Loving Kindness) Meditation
- Metta Means Goodwill, Thanissaro Bhikkhu (Geoffrey DeGraff)
- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. - “Hate is too great a burden to bear.”
- Aaron J. Lee, Angry Asian Buddhist
- Thich Nhat Hanh
- Robert Aiken Roshi
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